The Problem With Loser Quotes

In only two weeks college starts. I thought it’s important to pickup dorm decorations and posters. And so I went shopping.

A dorm-room poster, first of all, was an absolute must. Not something too specific or meaningful – just something exciting enough not to make eyes sore.

I’m not a picky guy.

But why does every poster in the store look like it was handed out with a participation trophy? They had big posters with powerful bold fonts. Like a STOP sign but with a quote instead of a command.

Except every “motivational quote” seemed hand picked for losers. Some examples include: “Whatever Hurts You Makes You Stronger”, “Don’t Give Up! You’re Almost There…”, and my personal favorite, “It Doesn’t Matter If You Fail As Long As You Try”.

You might be wondering why I’m making fun of innocent posters. I’m making fun of them because they’re wrong.

It actually matters a lot if you fail and still try. It means something went wrong and you can augment that problem until you do better. This idea that “as long as you try, you’ll win” is total bullshit.

I don’t want to hang something that makes me second-guess myself when viewed. That totally defeats the point of a motivational poster.

Don’t get me wrong – a quote is a quote and whatever encourages motivation is good.

But personally – I prefer some clear cut quotes with lions, tigers, and other crazy dope animals surrounding it. In fact, while I’m writing this there’s a poster directly in front of me.

It say’s “FORTUNE FAVORS THE BOLD.” It has a lion on it.

Now THAT is badass.




Are You a Narcissist?


Put down that mirror, you self-obsessed asshole. Don’t you realize how stupid you look?

Some might label those violating humble protocol as narcissists, or by its scientific definition, ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’. Symptoms of the disorder include: Exaggerating one’s importance among others, seeking constant attention and admiration from others, believing they’re special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions.

(I want to be perfectly clear; When I say narcissist, I’m addressing those with big egos. Not the tiny fraction of people with actual mental disorders.)

I’m no doctor but that seems like a huge generalization to me. That is, to assume all those pressing their ego buttons are narcissists. Keep in mind, ego isn’t as much a personality trait as it’s an action.

And am I right? Well, the data is in and to be honest – I’m not sure.

What I do know, is that a common trait associated with wealthy, confident, and powerful people, is the ability to trudge through bullshit like water. To keep one’s head raised and chest open when shit hits the fan. Pure unabashed confidence.

You might be thinking that ego doesn’t matter, or that it’s an obstacle and nothing else. But I’m convinced you can utilize it in a positive way.

For example,

When Kanye West smashed his jaw open in a car crash, did he really believe he’d be a best selling rap artists? When Steve Jobs got fired from the company he created, did he really believe he’d come back on top? Hardly. But that didn’t stop them.

“But that means nothing. There’s plenty of narcissistic people who’ve done nothing.” 

Well, something separates these individuals from the majority. Any guesses?

It’s an ego button the size of Africa, which is why everyone hated them. And they’re not alone.

For example, if I’m having a shit day and want to feel better, I’m going to press my ego button. If I’m too aggressive with friends or overstate my abilities, I can put my foot on the brakes.

It’s not a personality trait.

Of coarse, there’s absolutely drawbacks to ego being overused.

Show no confidence at all, and you’re a shy dork incapable of anything. Press it too much, and you’re an asshole. Drawing the line can be difficult and so it’s no surprise why  many steer clear of their ego entirely.

The trick is to find balance. To believe in yourself without being an asshole, and subsequently, to not remain quiet in pursuit of your desires. To quote Ryan Holiday, “Impressing people is utterly different from being truly impressive.”

That’s kind of the point.